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Welcome back to school! Over this past school year, many parents and schools have reached me out to start a discussion about how to teach children to use the internet safely. So, I will start this school year bringing this conversation back:We can’t effectively parent or mentor children from a place of fear or denial. We have to face that we cannot change that screens are part of our children’s lives, so we have to teach them the foundation of a thoughtful and healthy use of this tool. As the new school year begins, I invite you to think: our goal is to teach children to be digital citizens.
I invite you to enlighten yourself about the pressure of being a child in a digital world, many of these links will help you create conversation starters:
I believe the path of education is to making visible the underlying issues, establishing a critical thinking conversation about them, and modeling. To help your students and children use better the internet, explicitly talk about how you use it to communicate with others, and what strategies you have to get trustful information or learn something.
Procrastination creates stress at school and at home. Occasional delays happen, but when it becomes a pattern, it can be fueled by an underlying issue. Have you considered that procrastination maybe is not laziness? Sometimes, children refuse to study or do homework to mask their lack of confidence or anxiety of failing to complete a task. Perhaps, procrastination is masking the lack of study skills or a learning difficulty.
Parents are usually stressed with children procrastinating their assignments which usually lead to last minute wars. If you are dealing with this stressful situation, you should give a try to my homework planning on this past post, or even start understand about the homework issue reading this other one. If sticking to a plan consistently have not worked, you should consider that there is an underlying issue (read this article).
I usually study or work on my computer beside my children while they are doing their homework. In this way, I can observe how they are developing their study skills and notice what they are struggling with. When I see my child giving me the runaround, I start to pay attention to what is really going on. I usually think that something smells fishy here! It can be one math step that my son is not confident or does not know how even to start it! With over 20 years of experience as an educator and a curriculum developer, I can identify in different subjects (reading, writing, science, math, or social studies) where usually is the gap. I can analyze if my son just needs a structured sentence to start the flow, or if he needs a graphic organizer to plan the entire sentence, or even if he needs to start over: ok, so what is an atomic theory? However, I see how parents struggle to identify what the underlying difficulty is, or even teachers don’t have the time to pay meticulous attention to it.
If you want to try different resources (some free!) look at this article. The take away from today is to pay close attention: maybe your child procrastination is a form to ask for help.
I have a pre-teen at home, and everybody advises me: Be prepared, you are entering the though years! (In my mind I just answer: What? I feel that I had enough already!). Jokes apart, I relate to the concerns of every parent about how raising a teenager is challenging, so in this post, I will share how I am not scared about dealing with a teen at home, and what really concerns me.
One of my strengths is the ability to use challenges to create a learning path, so teenage years don’t scare me. When people say:
They will challenge you because they also will have opinions. Truth, but I don’t understand why is this not amazing? Why should I expect someone that only agrees with me and obeys me? I see here an excellent opportunity to teach and learn how respectfully agree and disagree.
They will test your (and the world) limits! I understand how this can be dangerous, but guidance is the key. I see here opportunities to teach responsibility, consequences, and independence.
They are inconstant, they are trying to figure out who they are.Well, count with me! I am an expert on this journey! I am trying to figure it out who I am and how to position myself in a better way in this world every day…
I am prepared for the hard times, I had worked with teenagers in Brazil for 12 years, and I see this as a very enriching moment. I admire when they are lost, how hard they try to find a way to understand who they are in this world, or at least how to position themselves. So, all these teens’ issues do not scare me.
Now, compare these goals with your family and school’s expectations. If these seven goals are not in the sight, this indicates that your expectations are not focusing on what is crucial. If you have a teen at home, talk about what the author’s highlighted in her article:
I expect that my son challenges me so we can talk about respect, responsibility, consequences, and independence. I hope that he shares with me how he is confused so I can share with him my journey to discover who I am. Besides, what really concerns me is how it is easy to lose sight of what is essential, and set up expectations that will lead to anxiety and depression.
Schedule a conversation about school’s expectations, homework overload, and ways to study smarter.
In a previous post, I helped teachers and schools to discuss insightful research-based practices of homework that makes sense to assign in (if you did not read yet, you could read it here!). Today, I want to bring insightful ideas for parents dealing with the homework battle.First, it is essential that parents acknowledge to themselves and their children (explicitly) that, after spending 7-8 hours at school, it is unrealistic to expect children to be excited and diligent about homework. This is precisely where I believe that parents need to take a smart approach to homework and teach a fundamental lesson:
Sometimes (or most of the times?) we have to finish tasks that we don’t want to, that we don’t agree too.
Understand that we don’t do everything we want and we have to accomplish assignments that we don’t want is what responsible people do. Parenting smartly and authoritatively also means teaching our children to grow up as responsible people. Parents can use the homework as an opportunity to tell their own story when they sometimes have to work when they were tired, or when disagreed with the task. As I have pointed before, research has shown that from early grades to 7th grade, homework should be used to teach study skills (I am the first in the line to acknowledge that some schools are not following this rule!). However, you can use homework to talk with your child:
Another recommendation is to organize a study-plan with your child, following these steps:
a) Ask your child pay attention to what works best for him or her (play for one hour and then tackle homework, or the opposite).
b) Set up a list of assignment priorities or divide long tasks in parts.
c) Set up breaks: after 20 minutes of working in the assignment he or she can run or play for 5-10 minutes and then tackle the second priority or part.
d) Put the phone away (in other room), or establish unambiguous rules to use it. My son uses my phone’s dictionary, so we established that he can have access to it when he needs to search for a word.
e) Another tip is to use a timer for each assignment, or for parts of a lengthy task.
Use this excellent homework contract to start these conversations with your child.
Hi there! I am excited to share part of the presentation that I am preparing for this week! Read and share it! Let me know if you want more helpful ideas and resources for parents and schools about digital citizenship.